I'm not entirely sure. Is anybody? But, I do know that I am not Kasia, Jake, Klara, Chloe or Jess. People tend to ask things like, so which character are you? or did you write ___ that way because you want to be just like her? Er no. I do not want to be an uptight too-smart-for-her-own-good emotionally void textbook junkie. Nor would I prefer to be a gold-digging slut.
Is there any of me in my characters? Well sure. Obviously. I wrote them. Chloe hates shopping, but loves a sweet pair of boots. All me. Kasia has a great "dumb blonde" theory. Yep, mine, too. I, however, have no desire to join the FBI or drive a Dodge Viper around a race track at 160mph (I spent enough of my life at the damn race track, thank you).
But, they are alive in my mind. When I'm writing, I can feel what they're thinking. I sympathize with their pain and I know their intentions are good no matter how they come across to others in the story. I want them to succeed in all they do. And I want them to get the guy/girl. Which brings us to another note.
Yes, I write sex scenes in my books. No, they do not stem (notice I avoided a horrible pun here, you're welcome) from my own experiences. In other words, I do not take my most personal moments of life and offer them in great detail to anyone who reads my work. Matter of fact, Kasia/Jake and Chloe/Jess have different sex. Very different. They are four different people. Very different. With two different relationships...okay, I'm not pressing my luck--you get it by now. Sex in my books=yes. My sex life in books=no.
I will admit that sometimes it can be difficult to separate from a character, especially after an emotional scene. They aren't me, but I sure have a lot invested in them. And in their success. As I've noted before, what I think is going to happen and what actually happens can be quite opposite and surprising. These turns of events can leave me feeling off kilter for days sometimes. I think that's good for the writing process, though, keeps me in the right mind frame.
So, anyone out there that does include massive amounts of themselves in their MC's?